What To Do When Your Baby Has To Be Held, Rocked, Bounced Or Nursed To Sleep

what to do when your baby has to be held, rocked, bounced or nursed to sleep
what to do when your baby has to be held, rocked, bounced or nursed to sleep

There are about a million forums online about mom’s desperately seeking sleep but their baby refuses to sleep unless rocked, bounced, or nursed to sleep. At some point your precious little baby got heavy and it’s taking an hour or more to get her/him to sleep. Mom and Dad are tired and just want to get their baby to sleep without all the fuss.

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My sleep story…

I am guilty of nursing, bouncing and rocking my babies to sleep. I love my children so incredibly much and knew they would only be this little for such a short time! I wanted to enjoy every minute I could.

At some point, this turned into me rocking a heavy 1-year-old for an hour every night to try to get her to sleep. The second I laid her down she would scream and it would start all over again. I was ready for it to stop. I missed the little time at night I got with my husband, and baby J and I were feeling frustrated every night. Getting her to sleep was something neither of us was enjoying anymore. I was afraid I was creating negative sleep associations!

I also had conceived the notion that if I didn’t rock her to sleep she would scream. This is what happened when I had to run to the bathroom or something. So that is what I expected would happen at bedtime.

As it turns out, it was me holding her back from getting to sleep all along. Who knew?!!! She was plenty old enough to soothe herself to sleep I had just taught her to depend on me instead. It may well be you that is holding your baby back from getting to sleep too! So here is what I have learned about how to get your sweet baby to sleep without all the bouncing, rocking and nursing.

How we changed things and how you can too!


  • Make sure you have a bedtime routine in place! Ours included having a bath, getting on jammies, reading, singing and then nursing. Yours can be whatever you choose but make sure it stays the same every night. That is how you tell your baby that it is time for sleep. It makes them associate that routine with sleeping and it is a positive way to help your baby wind down and know what to expect next. Babies really thrive on routines! If you don’t already have one start this a few weeks before you change anything else. Also, keep in mind that good naps equal good night time sleep(what to do if your baby won’t nap). If you have an overtired baby it will make the process much harder on everyone.
  • Try it with an open mind! I told myself there was no way that my baby would go to sleep without me rocking her and I believed it. I was not and am not comfortable with letting her cry it out. I hoped eventually she would be old enough to communicate and reason and would then get herself to sleep. DON’T DO THAT. It is usually us parents holding back our babies from getting to sleep on their own. So do yourself a favor and say that for the next few weeks you will not think this way. You will try something new with a positive attitude and you will mentally give it a chance to work. This part is critical! If you don’t give it a chance then you will fail out of frustration.
  • Set realistic sleep expectations! Personally, I wanted my daughter to be able to get herself to sleep without causing her distress. Your goals may be different but are probably fairly similar. Remember that your baby is going to be trying something new and that you need to have patience and be understanding that it won’t happen immediately. Understand that you are going to have some sleepless nights and plan accordingly. Meaning if you have a crazy week at work it may not be the right time to start. Also keep in mind that babies are not ready to soothe themselves to sleep until at least 6 months of age. You can attempt to put your baby down drowsy at an earlier age for good practice but when they are that small they still may need your extra help to get to sleep. 9 months of age is a realistic age that you can expect your baby to be able to soothe her/himself to sleep.
  • Set the stage and have the necessary tools! Talk to your baby about the new routine you’re going to try(even young babies understand what you are saying but just can’t talk back yet, so please don’t skip this part). Reassure your baby that mommy or daddy will be there to help her/him to fall asleep. Some tools that we use to set the stage for sleep in our home are video baby monitor(these are truly amazing you can be in the room without actually being in the room), room darkening curtains, white noise machine (these drown out noise and let you still have a life after baby goes to sleep! They are amazing!), sleep sacks for safe sleep(these have always been a sleep cue for my kids and they make them feel secure), and a lovey to snuggle up with for comfort(if your baby is 1 year or older).

  • Give it your best shot! Don’t back out for at least a week! Follow your nightly bedtime routine. Come up with a saying you will use at bedtime. “Sweet dreams. I love you all my heart! Time for bed baby.” That is what I use, yours can be whatever you want but it needs to be a way to tell your baby cuddle time done and it is time to go to sleep now. Consistency is very important for babies so whatever it is, memorize it and use it every time you put baby to bed. Lay your baby down in her/his crib and give a lovey to snuggle(if your baby is 1 year or older). Try rubbing baby’s back or head for a few minutes and then leave the room. Grab the baby monitor and watch. If baby is fussing that is okay. There is a difference between fussing and crying. I am okay with letting my baby fuss and talk out her frustrations but not okay with letting her cry and scream. If you’re really lucky you will be surprised by how your baby plays and talks in their crib when you just let them be. If your baby starts crying wait just a minute and then go in and comfort baby. Try comforting without taking her/him out of the crib. Sing, back rubs, shush, pat, or whatever you can to comfort baby without leaving the crib. Once your baby calms down then leave the room again. If your baby will not be comforted in the crib then take her/him out and soothe in your arms. Once baby is calm then lay her/him back in the crib. This will take some repeating you are teaching something new and you can’t expect baby to get the hang of it right away. I think my first night I stayed and rubbed little J’s back until she fell all the way to sleep. After I had picked her up to calm her down at least 5 times. But you know what? After 3 days she knew the routine and she was quite content to talk and babble until she fell asleep. My little J is a very particular child she likes things just the way she likes them so I know you may think this won’t work for your child but give it a chance! If every night is a crying and soothing fest for a week then you can choose to take a break for a week or two.
  • Try Try Again! I tell my 2 year old this all the time. If at first, you don’t succeed try try again( it’s from some kid show.. Can’t remember which one). Seriously though this is something that is so important for your family. Good sleep associations and the skills to get yourself to sleep are important for the rest of your life! Remember to keep it positive and happy! A crib is a place where your sleepy child can be comfortable and rest safely and happily. It should not be a bad or scary place. If you’re feeling really frustrated take turns with dad or take a break and come back to it in a week.
  • Enjoy the peace of having a child that puts her/himself to sleep! You’ll soon be wondering why you waited so long to do this! Nights are so much happier when getting your baby to bed isn’t something dreadful and prolonged. Enjoy some extra you, husband or sibling time!

What gave me the courage to try this was a book called “The No-Cry Sleep Solution,” by Elizabeth Pantley. If you are not into crying it out methods then this book is a must read! It has great tips to getting your baby to sleep without crying.


I just put this method into action with my little man and it is going great! I wanted to share with everyone what the first week looked like with him so you have an idea. My sleep goals with him were much more relaxed than with my first because I know he is my last baby I will have. I am soaking up the snuggles and breastfeeding while I still can. I nurse little man and snuggle for a couple minutes and then lay him down.

The first night I put him down and left the room and he screamed and cried instantly. I went back in tried to soothe him in the crib, he was not having it so I picked him up soothed him and laid him back down, walked out of the room. He was screaming the moment I tried to lay him down. I walked back in questioned myself, was I doing something wrong, maybe we weren’t ready for this? I picked him up and snuggled him until he was okay and while I did, I reminded myself that this was important for him and for my marriage!

Day 1 it took about a full hour of up and down, soothing, back rubs and bouncing his crib mattress to get him to sleep. To my pleasant surprise, he only woke up twice which was and upgrade from the cosleeping usual 4 times. I nursed and he went right back to sleep. Day 2 we took it down to only 40 minutes until he was asleep and less picking up. He woke twice again in the night. Day 3 we reverted and it took an hour to get him to sleep with lots of pick ups and soothing. He only woke once this night! Day 4, 30 minutes and he was fast asleep much less picking up. Only woke once again. Day 5 he took 45 minutes to get to sleep but did it mostly on his own. I went in twice to soothe him but didn’t take him out of his crib. He woke twice that night.

By the end of week 2, he has been taking around 5-15 minutes to get to sleep and can do it on his own now and has been waking only once a night and sometimes not at all. I’m so happy with the results and everyone is getting more sleep. My husband and I get our time together at night too! About midway through week 2, he has also switched to napping this way as well and is napping longer too! Horray!

Now we are bringing big sister back into the room for bedtime too( they share a room)! I’ll be sure to write a post about that if we manage to find a smooth routine!

Cheers to peaceful bedtimes and well-rested babies!
As always please share! How is this method working in your sleep life? What other methods have worked well for your little ones? I love the feedback I get from you guys and I love to know what is working and not working for other parents out there! Check out the comments below and see how this is working for other moms! I’m loving the community we are forming here and would love to hear from all of you! Even if you don’t normally leave comments, I would love if you left one here!

92 thoughts on “What To Do When Your Baby Has To Be Held, Rocked, Bounced Or Nursed To Sleep”

  1. I’m not a mom who does well with crying so I was always coddling my baby to get her to sleep. We used the sleep lady shuffle technique at 6 months old (my baby was very frustrated and ready to learn so it worked at this young age). It is a gentle sleep training technique that we love! Wishing everyone sleep and sweet dreams!

      • Hi Elle! Thank you so much for sharing! I have never tried the sleep lady shuffle myself but it definitely looks like a great no cry solution as well. Glad your family is getting some sleep!
      1. I’ve never tried any of these techniques but I am so ready for a good night sleep. My 16 month old depends on me fully. We’ve ALWAYS rocked him to sleep and now pay the consequences. I don’t mind trying these methods, I be even come to the point that the cry it out was worth a try but your methods seem more relaxing. Question I have is what about when he wakes 5- 6 times during the night, then what do I do?

        1. Hi Rachelle,

          I totally remember being at that same point where a good nights sleep sounds so amazing! The good news is that with this method you are teaching your little one to fall asleep on their own so when he wakes in the night he will have the skills to get back to sleep. With my daughter, I remember being so shocked that she suddenly started sleep through the whole night! 7 pm – 7 am, it was amazing! If your son is waking out of habit, then you will want to go in and calm him down and walk out of the room as many times as it takes. The same way that you would at bedtime. It may take a few days but he will get the hang of it : )

          1. Hello,
            I am also at my wits end..my almost 8 month old is waking up 5-6 times/night and I want to try this method. But I am scared that she will learn this new thing of patting or singing instead of the old sleep association. In your case worked out fine?

          2. So far about the last two weeks we have tried this new method. Started out rough in the beginning with putting my little one to sleep drowsy and walking out of the room after telling him it was nighttime and doing a routine of the book reading and whatnot. He cried and cried for the first few nights and we would go in and Pat him on the back and assure him it was okay and walked out of the room now he lays down after less than a minute. I do my same routine with a bath, then I do a mama and me sing along and then book and rock for two seconds until he starts to close his eyes. I tell him it’s time for night night or bedtime and he is going in the crib by himself and he lays down… when I walk out of the room he stands up and cries but only for a second now and then lays back down. The last two nights he has slept through the night. I am hoping that it continues to go well. Fingers crossed. But I can say it’s a lot less stressful during the day when we get sleep at night.

          3. Oh, and I forgot to say I don’t always give him a bath every night. I just kind of play it by ear and if I feel he needs a bath I give him one… more or less to pass the time if I need to fill in gaps, but if I do not do a bath I do lotion time and let him run around in his diaper while we are doing the mama and me sing along on the TV. I always make sure that he is super tired when it’s time for bed but not to make sure that he is overtired as I feel that will make him wake up more through the night.

          4. Hey! Your method sounds great and I’m looking forward to trying it out with my 4 month old baby girl. I was just wondering how old was your daughter when she started sleeping from 7 pm -7 am? Also how many naps during the day and for how long in order to get her to sleep 12 hours at night?

          5. Hi Ruth,

            My daughter started the 7-7 schedule around 7 months old but, she still woke to often at that age. Before we had tried this method. Check out this great chart to help you with the appropriate nap durations and the number of naps by age. Hope that helps you both! Wishing you sweet dreams!

        2. Hi Rachelle,

          One of the things I have made sure of is getting enough food into their bodies. If my 9 month old doesn’t eat enough during the day, I find her up several times throughout the night. Food plays a really important roll in their sleeping through the night. My gal gets some rice cereal before bed and after dinner then her bottle. It has helped tremendously. Best of luck! Hugs


  2. Great article. Although, babies younger than six months are fully capable to fall asleep on their own and sooth themselves. My four month old has been going to bed on her own happily for the last two months or so. It takes some patience and gentle leading, but it is so worth it when you see how much happier everyone one is, including baby. I still walk her to sleep sometimes just because I love the process but, by no means does she rely on me to go to sleep. These things don’t happen by chance it takes consistency and work, I’ve seen it work countless times with my sisters and fellow mom friends.

    1. Hi JoyLynn,

      Thank you for sharing! Lucky you that your little one can get to sleep on her own! The startle(Moro) reflex is what doesn’t work for my little guy. You are so right! It definitely takes consistency. That is a major key to making a great routine stick and become expected for your little one. Glad your family is getting some sleep : )

    2. Joylynn,
      How did you sleep train your a baby at 2 months old? What did you do? My baby is 4 months old. I am willing to wait another 2 months but if I can sleep train him now I’m willing to give it a try (without doing “cry it out”).

    3. Hey JoyLynn!

      Could you please share what method you followed for your 4 month old? I have a 4 month old daughter and would love her to sleep independently.

  3. I have 5 month old twins and I’m not sure where to start. My son will fall asleep on his own but my daughter us very fussy unless she is touching someone to go to sleep. Thanks for the article I will be giving this a try.

    1. Hi, Victoria!

      Thank you for reaching out! I really don’t have much experience with twins. I wish I had a great answer for you! Here are some good twin tips that seem to fall in line with the method of getting your babies to sleep that I mention in my post. I hope it helps! Wishing you some sleep! Hang in there Momma your doing a great job!

    2. Victoria I, too, have twins that just turned a year old. My daughter goes to sleep at night by herself with no problem. She actually prefers it. My son is total opposite. We rock him to sleep and at night he still wakes up two times usually. With them being in the same room I’m not sure what to do. Any advice?

      1. Boys tend to have a lot more energy than girls around this age I’m not an expert or have kids of my own yet but I do work with them. twins can be a lot a like and completely different from one athother my be make his bed time routine different or seperet of his sister’s and I would try looking up some activities that they can do when with you because stimulating the brain with words and other things like painting in a bag going out side to get fresh air unless it’s to cold of course all baby’s like to be read and song to some times one my be playing wile you read to the other but that’s OK sorry I feel like I just gave you an ear full I hope what I wrote will help but don’t be afraid to ask advice from other people you know that are parents themselves but what works for someone else may not always work for you so please don’t get your hopes down and keep a positive mind and just try new things

  4. I love this article! At times I catch myself staying in his room when he cries right after I put him down, then, as soon as I leave, he falls asleep. You’re so right that it’s often us parents who are depriving our baby of sleep. Since he was a newborn, I’ve put him down while awake (although I often just cuddle him to sleep because this time is limited) and it’s made a big difference in my opinion. He learned he didn’t need me to fall asleep all the time. My concern is when I stop nursing (around 12 months) and that nightly routine changes- we both love that time together and I worry he won’t take well to it.

    1. Hi Melissa,

      Thank you for sharing! I love the cuddles too! Sounds like you have some great sleep habits in place. I love nursing as well, especially at night. With my older one, I decided to give up nursing except at night around 14 months or so and it was a very easy transition. She was old enough to understand that we only have milk at night and it was our special cuddle time. If you’re comfortable with something like that I really recommend it! You start producing less milk and it becomes more of a comfort bonding thing instead of a nutrition thing. We stopped night nursing around 17 months. My daughter caught a cold and was stuffy and didn’t want to nurse because she was congested and from that night on I just told her that mommy’s milk was all gone. We replaced it with snuggles and songs and there was no argument. At 12 months you may have a rough first week or so but he will be old enough to understand what you are saying. Wear high cut shirts : ) It is usually our fear that our children won’t like something that holds us back so he may just surprise you!

  5. I am so glad I came across this post through Pinterest! Crying makes me uncomfortable and goes against my mama intuition. The majority of what I read says to let baby cry and seems to make me feel like there is no other option when it comes to getting baby to sleep, which of course isn’t true! My little girl is almost 5 months old and I feel a lot of pressure to “sleep train”. I know she isn’t ready for that yet and do believe she will get there eventually. This post is a breath of fresh air, thank you!

    1. Hi, Christine!

      Thanks so much for sharing! The best part of being a mommy is exactly that…YOU are your little girl’s mommy! YOU know what is right for your little girl and no one else. So just shake off the pressure coming from other people. I have been there and done that too, it is frustrating, but when I remind myself that I am the mom and no one else it makes it a little easier. Enjoy your snuggle time now and when you feel your daughter is ready then I’ll be right here cheering you on! You’re doing a great job momma! Keep following those instincts!

  6. I loved reading your post, it mirrored my own experience in so many ways. Really fun to get to the end discover we used the SAME book!’ Thanks for articulating this so well – I’m pinning so I can point people to your explanation instead of having to type it out every time one of my friends has this issue and asks for help!

    1. Hi Sarah,

      Thank you so much for the sweet comment! That book was a lifesaver for our family! So glad you enjoyed it and will share it! Sounds like your family is having sweet dreams already : )

  7. We are ready to implement this method.I also am not a fan of the cry it out method.My baby girl is 16 months and is still rocked and nursed to sleep.She will also wake up several times to nurse for comfort during the night.Eventually she ends up in bed with us because I am so tired. She still sleeps in our room.(our place is small)I am exhausted and I think she is too.We have a bed time routine that is great and she enjoys.I would like to nurse her at least once at night but how do I implement that into this type of sleep method?

    1. Hi Gina,

      I’m glad to hear your family is ready for some good sleep!I LOVED nursing my little one so I completely understand wanting that bond to last. What worked well for us and for many other moms has been to nurse just before bed as the last part of our routine. Not long enough to fall asleep but long enough to snuggle and bond. At that age it will probably be so great for both of you to be sleeping through the night! You might be surprised by your little one not night waking anymore because she will be learning the skills to get herself to sleep.

  8. I so need this…. I hate when my baby cries. My heart feels like it’s breaking into pieces when she does. She’s 8 months old and wakes 1-2 times per night screaming and/or crying. She refuses to nap in the daytime until she drops, and that could be noontime or 5-7 pm when she goes down. I’m a sahm and we also co-sleep, but I’m SO exhausted that I’m starting to snap at her when she doesn’t go to bed. She could be falling asleep out in the living room, but as soon as I take her to bed, she pings awake and screams until we get back up. I don’t know how to get her to sleep without her screaming/crying and she does the same in the daytime for naps. I can’t get any housework done because she cries if I don’t hold her. I hurt physically because I haven’t been able to give my arms and back a break…

    1. Hi Kayla,

      That is rough! I know what you mean I really hate hearing my baby cry too! You should check out the Wonder Weeks App. It sounds like your little one may be having separation anxiety. Try this baby carrier! It is the best and can help your baby sleep while being close to you and will give you the chance to get some cleaning done. Good naps mean good bedtime sleep so definitely don’t give up on trying to make naps happen. This method takes time but I promise it is so worth it and for us mommas who don’t like crying I really think it is the best option out there. Try getting outside for some fresh air to calm you both it’s a great trick that has worked well for me and always helped my babies nap better after we did. Good luck momma and hang in there! You are doing a great job!

  9. Hello, i never leave comments but this article sang to me, as this is how it was with my firstborn. I went against what everyone was saying to “sleeptrain” her at 6 month old when my gut was telling me she still needed her mama very much…even though she had so much trouble sleeping. Finally when she was 1, I taught my insecure daughter to love her bed, in the gentlest way possible. Took half a year for her to FINALLY fall asleep completely on her own, but once it worked it was like magic. Now she’s 3 1/2 and her bed is her haven. Never thought I would see the day! My goal was for her to understand that going to bed is not a punishment but a happy place for when we are sleepy and i think i achieved it! Now my second baby is 1 and i can rock him to sleep one night and just pat his back to sleep the other and he doesnt care as long as he sleeps in the end!hes also been sleeping through the night naturally for quite some time when my first only started on she was 2 1/2. So it really just depends on the personality of your child, i really dont think theres a way thats a definite answer. Just listen to you gut and your baby! Sorry for the long comment 😉

    1. Hi Shell,

      Thanks so much for the comment! I LOVE to hear from other momma’s out there! Totally makes my day 🙂 I love your sleep story! Instincts are really the best way to go…no one will ever know your child the way you do. So hard to have pressure to sleep train and especially with the first baby. I’m glad to hear that you were able to stay strong for your daughter and yourself. Sounds like you family is having nice peaceful sleep! Great job Momma and thanks for reaching out!

    1. Hi Chelsea,

      For my little ones, we started with bedtime only. It was when they were the most tired and it was guaranteed that they would eventually fall asleep. Babies need good naps to sleep well at night. I wasn’t interested in throwing off their naps at the beginning for fear that if they didn’t nap well, then I would have an overtired baby at bedtime who couldn’t get to sleep on their own. Once we had the nighttime down then about a month later we started to work on naps the same way. There is another book called The No-Cry Nap Solution if you are interested. Hope this helps! Wishing your family good sleep and sweet dreams!

  10. Help!! Trying to go from co-sleeping to the crib with my 9 month old. She has been sleeping with me for 6 months now and won’t go to sleep unless my boob is in her mouth. I haven’t been able to put her down to sleep by herself in months, even for naps, so I have had to lay down with her or put her in the car to get her to sleep during the day.
    As I try to transition her to her crib, should I just start with working on night time and keep nap routine the same as we have been doing until we get nights under control? I just know that naps are really important to get good nighttime sleep. And I’m just worried that I might be trying to change too much all at once?

    1. Hi Leah,

      Oh, that is rough!Totally was in the same position with my first! What worked well for our family has been to just start with the nights and exactly like you said, keep naps the same. Your little one will need those naps to sleep well at night. As for the co-sleeping to the crib, it was the same for my little ones. We kept the crib in our room until our little one was a year because of the SIDS recommendations for room sharing. Moving to the crib is a perfect time to learn how to self-soothe to sleep because you can’t lay with her to fall asleep anyways. Try to be really consistent! It makes everything go so much smoother. Good luck momma, hang in there! I’ll be here wishing your family good sleep and sweet dreams!

      1. I only had to do naps the same way for the first day! She took naps with me on the first day (after her first night in her bed, which was rough but not as bad as I thought it would be). She is now sleeping AMAZING!!!! She slept 10.5 hours straight last night and then went back to sleep for 3 more hours, and that was only her 3rd night in her own bed. Then she took 2 amazing naps in her bed yesterday. She has been putting herself right to sleep, no more fussing or crying. Going on 12 hours of sleep for last night and still sleeping!
        I have been so scared of “sleep training” and moving her to her own bed, but maybe I was just holding her back from being the amazing sleeper that she is.
        This article helped me so much! Thank you thank you thank you!!!

        1. Hi Leah,

          Thanks for sharing! That Is fantastic! Sometimes when little ones get older they sleep so much better when they have their own space. I’m so glad to hear that naps are going well for your family too! Great job momma! So glad I could help : )

        2. This whole post (but your comment specifically) gives me hope! My 8 month old sons sleep is a total train wreck. We co-sleep and he doesn’t sleep well at all if I’m not laying with him. I just cannot stand the thought of letting him cry and it seems literally impossible that he would even allow us to try and comfort/soothe him without me nursing him to sleep…

          Leah-it’s been a couple of weeks since your comment…how are things going now? Is she still sleeping great in her bed? Does she ever wake up in the middle of the night?

          1. Angela,
            I am so glad that my story helps encourage you! I can honestly say I felt the same way. I didn’t think it was possible for my daughter to go to sleep in her own bed without screaming! The biggest thing that helped me when I started transitioning her to her bed was telling the difference between her fussing and actually crying. The first night I didn’t really give her a chance to fuss because I was so worried she was going to scream. But I would really recommend giving your son a chance to fuss before going in to soothe him (if he does just cry).
            I am happy to report that she is still doing AMAZING sleeping in her bed! She doesn’t even fuss at all when I lay her down at night! She literally rolls over and is asleep by time I get downstairs. She sleeps the whole night long (about 12 hours) almost every night! Every once in a while if she wakes up earlier, I will just put her in bed with me for an hour or so (usually cause I am too tired, lol). But you can do this!!! Trust me, if my daughter can get used to her bed and be a good night time sleeper, so can your son!
            So, our nights have completely changed and are going wonderfully! Nap time still isn’t under control, so I am still laying down with her for naps. But I am going to try to work on naps soon. Last time I tried, she fussed for 30 minutes before falling asleep, and then only napped for 20 minutes. That happened for both naps several days in a row, so I took a break from that. Any nap advice would definitely be welcome! 🙂

        3. Leah, thank you so much for responding!! I’m feeling encouraged. We are taking our family on a mini get away this weekend and will be staying in a hotel, so we aren’t going to try anything new until after that. I might try it next week! So glad things are still going great for you!

          1. Hi Leah and Angela!

            I wanted to thank you both for your engaging comments! I always wanted this to be a place for moms to come together and help each other out. I’m so glad to see that starting to happen here! : )

          2. Angela, have you tried this with your son? I’m in the same boat as you and Leah…looking for more hope and scared to hear him scream and cry!

        4. Hi Leah!

          I’m so glad to hear your success story with your daughter as I’m going through the exact same situation with my 2nd son who’s almost 9 months. I’ve been researching everywhere on how to deal with the crib transition – to end co-sleeping, NON-CIO options and how to deal with babies that won’t nap other than on mom and your story gives me hope!! Also reading this helpful and amazing post with this great way of tackling sleep training. I feel like there’s light at the end of the tunnel! Lol. I’ll start in a couple of weeks. I’ll try and update y’all ;-).

          1. Hi Tayra,

            So glad to have you here! Thank you for commenting! I am in the middle of transitioning my second little one from co-sleeping to sleeping in his crib, in his room. He is 12 months old. I will be adding an update on the process the 2nd time around and how it worked for us, so stay tuned. My very best advice is know how you feel about your baby’s sleep, what your expectations are, and be consistent from the very first night. Try your best not to vary what you do each night, even the slightest. Good luck momma! Hope to hear great results from you and your son too!

          2. Thankyou so much for this comment thread and your article. We are trying to transition,my 3rd child into his cot. He is a terrible sleeper and napper. After todays 40 min total naps for the day and a really rough night before (waking every hour for a feed/boobie settle) enough is enough. I stumbled across this and tried your techniques for bed time. It was hard but he went down with out the feeding or rocking. Ill let you know how it goes he is sharing a room with his 2 siblings so hopefully it goes well. Wish me luck. And thanks again xo

          3. Hi Leanne,

            Thank you for joining in! Isn’t it amazing that even with your 3rd child we still always have to find ways to get our little ones to sleep! It is so easy to forget how hard it can be! I had to reread all of this before getting ready to do this method with my 2nd one! Wishing you luck and hoping this helps! : )

        5. Hi Leah!
          I am in the exact same boat that you were in with your (then) 9 month old little girl. My son will not sleep without my boob in his mouth, and since you had such fast success, I was wondering how you broke the cycle of nursing to sleep while transitioning to a crib so quickly. I appreciate any advice!

          1. Hi Nicole,

            I would really recommend reading the no cry sleep solution book. It covers a great method to help you with the nursing to sleep issue. She has some really great tips in there!

  11. I have so many questions! My son is 15 months old. We are a busy family which makes routine hard for us. We have commitments on some nights but not others, which affects whether we do baths and what time he’ll get to bed. Also, some days he takes one nap and others he still takes two so his bedtime varies. And one vs two naps also makes it easier or harder to put him to sleep at night. I typically nurse him to sleep. If he’s only had one nap he’s asleep in less than 5 minutes and i can lay him down fine. Other days he’ll nurse and I’ll lay him down awake and he’ll go to sleep. BUT…my biggest problem is, he’s still waking every 3 hours in the middle of the night! When he does, I let him cry about 5 minutes then go in and nurse him. If i attempt to comfort him without picking him up or nursing he gets really mad and screams his head off. I don’t know how to stop this. Any advice?

    1. Hi, Momofmulitples!

      Thanks for reaching out! I nannied for a family that had older children with lots of activities and younger ones that had to be flexible in their schedules. So I can appreciate where you are coming from. The best advice I can give you is to drop down to just one nap a day. As long as your son is getting 11-12 hours of sleep at night and one good nap in during the day he should be well rested. At 15 months night, waking/nursing is usually a habit that has been formed. I love this article from Dr. Sears. It offers some great ways to break the habit. For my daughter, we used the method of her sleeping in her own room and telling her that “mommy’s milk is all gone at night.” It took about 4 nights of her waking up, screaming, flailing and me having to talk to and soothe her back to sleep. By the 5th night, I remember waiting in bed knowing she would be up soon and she never woke back up. It just took some consistency and a couple rough nights to break the habit. Well worth it though when everyone is happily sleeping through the night and waking up well rested! Hope that helps! Wishing your family good sleep and sweet dreams!

  12. Hi
    This article is amazing i can not wait to try it.just had couple of question
    MY daughter is 10 months old she had birth asphyxia due to that she suffers from epilepsy
    Thank God she is seizure free from last month and is very healthy active baby she is taking medicine so she takes around 4 naps each day her med does that.she sleeps in my arm feeding or else rocking she wakes up around four am then again i have to rock her if i leave her in her crib she stands up wouldnt lay down what to do ?plz help

    1. Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out! I’m so glad to hear that your daughter is healthy and doing well! When it comes to standing up you have 2 options either wait it out(if she is not crying) and see if she will get tired and lay down on her own. Or the second option if she doesn’t know how to get back down or she is crying is to very consistently go in and lay her back down. Walk out and close the door. Come back and repeat as many times as is takes. Keeping doing that for a couple days and she will begin to understand that she needs to lay down. It may be a rough couple of days, especially at 4 am but if you want to her learn a new habit then it will take consistency. Also, make sure if it is at 4 am that you are not talking and interacting with her I hope this helps : )

  13. I totally agree that approaching sleep with a positive attitude can make a difference! DD#2 has always been a pretty terrible sleeper. Somewhere along the line I made a conscious effort to really talk up how awesome sleep is, how it’s great she’s going to sleep, and even how wonderful it is when she wakes up (even if she’s screaming after a 20 minute nap). I’m not entirely sure it has lengthened her sleep, but it definitely changed my attitude at least!

    1. Hi Catherine,

      Thanks for the comment! I love to hear that you approach sleep so positively! That is fantastic! It really does make a difference in how your child views sleep. It definitely helps the mommy mindset of sleep too. It’s amazing how being positive can make you feel!

  14. I have a question. I want to teach my baby to fall asleep on his own, but currently he always falls asleep during his last feeding at 7:00pm and I put him in his crib and he sleeps through the night. I don’t want him to always need to be fed to fall asleep but what do I do since he always falls asleep from his last feeding? He is 5 months right now.

    1. Hi Kendall,

      Thanks for the question! Great to have you here! The easiest way to do this is to lay him down before he falls to sleep. Simply stop the feeding before he has the chance to drift off and lay him down drowsy but awake. If he falls to sleep at the beginning of the feeding then you can try rubbing him, switching positions or slightly waking him just as your ready to lay him down. A simple kiss and good night may be enough to wake him slightly. That is great that your little one sleeps through the night!

  15. This post has added more quality-of-life to my days and nights than anything else in a VERY long time. Thank you! I used to fear naptime and bedtime. We would shape our time around my husband being home to put her down whenever possible because I dreaded it so much. Now it is no sweat, and it only took 3 days at 16 months. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

    1. Hi Hope,

      I was so thrilled to read this comment! I started this blog in hopes of being able to help other moms and women out there! To know that it made a difference for your family is so rewarding and amazing! I am so glad you are all getting some peace and sleep! Congrats to you for being brave enough to try something new and different! Great job Momma!

    2. Hi Hope,

      What a wonderful thing to hear! I remember feeling the same way about bedtime and knowing it was going to be such a struggle. I wrote this hoping to be able to help other moms out there who would be feeling the same way and it is the best feeling knowing that it has! Thank you so much for your sweet comment and for reading! Great job momma for having the courage to try something new : )

  16. I could use some advice. I have a good routine with my granddaughter (I’m fostering her, drug momma n father). I keep up on times she sleeps and eats, keep her fed well and play with her to burn energy. Now lately at bedtime she seems to come alive as if I have given her a cup of coffee to drink. Bedtime has become exasperating and extremely frustrating to say the least. I do all the rocking, quiet playing, some singing but it has taken me an 1 1/2 tonight to put her to bed and I’m 58. I may have kept her up to long I started her bath at 8:20 tonight but this has been happening for awhile now. Can you tell me what I can do to change this insanity? I want to try this method your teaching but if she is acting like she just got a cup of coffee in her bottle, not sure this will work? Help!!!
    Thank you.

    1. Hi Cathy,

      Thanks for reaching out! It sounds like you are on the right path with a good routine in place! I think your granddaughter may be over tired and getting a second wind because she is past her ideal sleep window time. My suggestion would be to start this method right away but be very intentional about doing it the same time each night. I have found a 7pm-7am schedule to work best for babies. Of course you can adjust to make this fit your schedule but roughly between 7-8 should be bedtime and a wake up time in the morning between 7-8 as well. Focus on being very consistent on the time, routine and using this method to get your granddaughter to sleep every night. It has worked very well for both my little ones and many others out there too. How wonderful that your granddaughter has such a caring and loving person to raise her! Keep up the great work! I would love to hear back from you in a few weeks to see how everything is going!

  17. My six month old sleeps with me in my bed and I’m so ready for her to sleep in her own crib. I’ve learned so much from your post. I didn’t know -6mn can’t self sooth. I’ve tried the crib before and she would just cry and I can’t let her cry it out like my mom says. But now reading this I feel confident in trying again and I understand so much better now, how there learning to sleep on there own. Thankyou so much for this post and having a gentle and patient approach.

    1. Hi Jeri,

      So nice to have you here! Oh, the pressure of other adults. Just keep in mind that you are the one who knows your baby best and you know what is right for your baby. Some 6-month-olds can self-soothe, while others are not quite there yet. Personality type really factors into that. Check out the Wonder Weeks App on your phone it can shed light on when a good time to start may be in terms of developmental. When you think your baby is ready you can try again just be very consistent. Keep up the great work momma! And keeping doing what feels right for your family : )

  18. Please help! I have been trying for about a month now to transition my 6 month old from my bed to hers. Actually I don’t even mind her being in my bed, I just want to be able to stay up past 7 pm. I have read the Pantley book and have been trying to incorporate these concepts into what we do. We have definitely developed a nighttime routine (bath, daddy puts her Pjs on, mommy nurses her) and I have had success with the Pantley pull away method which was extremely helpful as I used to not even be able to detach without her waking up. However we have come to a standstill in terms of our progress. I can sometimes slip away but she wakes up shortly after screaming (not fussing) and I have to start over again. I get maybe 15-20 min total time with my husband at night on a good night. Therefore I usually just end up staying in the bed when she falls asleep. We have also tried the crib which has been a very unfortunate failure. I read this article and it gave me some inspiration to give it another go! But I need some help figuring out what I am doing wrong. I spent 3 hours straight trying to lay her down (I would wait until she was nice and sleepy but awake) but as soon as she touches the crib it is all out wailing. I tried soothing her with gentle touches, back rubs, soft shushing, singing but no dice. So I would pick her up, calm her down and try again. But after 3 hours I finally gave up and put her in the bed with me and she fell asleep immediately. This isn’t the first time I’ve tried this. Can anyone think of what I’m doing wrong?? Do I just need to keep doing it for 4,5, or 6 hours? I feel terrible because it’s stressful on her not getting to sleep.

    1. Hi Jess,

      That sounds rough! I spent a lot of nights in bed early with my daughter like that. It is not fun and can definitely take a toll on a marriage. The best advice I can give you is to be extremely consistent and you have to make it past the first 3 days to see results. Mentally prep yourself for a really rough week. I would check the Wonder Weeks App to make sure that you are in a good phase in terms of development. Keep in mind that at 6 months some babies are not ready to self-soothe, depending on personality type. If you have a particular or high needs baby it may be that sleep training at 9 months will be a better option for your family. Use your momma instincts to decide which route is the best for your baby and family. And hang in there! I promise there is a rainbow on the other side of the tunnel!

  19. I too need some pointers. I have a 4 month old who won’t sleep unless he’s either nursing or touching me (which means we share my bed). We dont have much of a routine but he knows when we lay down in Mom’s bed its time to sleep. I do have a little nighttime saying I whisper to him each night. It’s hard to stick to a firm bath routine because I don’t think he needs a bath every night. We live in a very small apartment so we don’t have much room for a special quiet place to read books or sing songs except for in my bed. I need to be able to have my bed to myself. His poor father has to sleep on the couch right now because he’s scared to bedshare with us. So I’m trying do this on my own. Reading this has given me hope though! I’ve tried the cry-it-out method and it about killed me. Broke my heart and didn’t work. My baby has this problem with rolling onto his belly and sometime he forgets how to roll himself back over so I’m scared that he’s going to suffocate. Any advice on how to get him not to do that? How long do I do this method before giving in? Do I have sleepless nights in my future?

    1. Hi Jody,

      Thanks for reaching out! I always recommend a pack n play in your room for the first year. It is easy to move, foldable, and it gets a lot of use. If your little guy is rolling on his own then it is safe for him to sleep that way as long as he is in a safe sleep environment, but always lay him down on his back first. Meaning his own crib, a firm mattress, no loose blankets or toys and no bumpers. Try using a white noise machine in your room to help everyone sleep better and not wake up to the sounds of moving around during sleep. Definitely get a consistent bed and nap time routine in place so your little one knows what to expect. It does not mean a bath every night. It can be as simple as going to your room, putting a sleep blanket on, turning some white noise on, saying your little phrase, nursing, and putting him down. Keep in mind that at 4 months old he may not be ready to soothe himself back to sleep when he wakes up. That is something that happens developmentally at 6-12 months of age depending on the baby. I hope this helps! Hang in there momma!

  20. Hello! My son is 8 1/2 months old and we have had a solid routine in place since we brought him home (bath, book, bottle, and bed.) I’ve been rocking him and giving him his bottle at the same time every night and he usually falls asleep while taking his bottle. I put him down in bed and he usually sleeps for about 4 hours. He has slept all through the night on a couple of occasions but lately he’s been waking up more and more. Should I stop rocking him while giving him his bottle? Give him his bottle before his bath time? I’m not sure what’s best for his sleep associations and don’t necessarily want to give up holding him in the rocker before bed… any advice would be greatly appreciated!

    1. Hi Shanna,

      Thanks for your comment! I love to hear that you have a nice routine in place. That is such a great head start because your son knows what to expect every night. If you would like to see him not waking in the night I would try giving him the bottle in the rocker but instead of rocking just snuggle up and try gentle touches and rubs to keep him awake. Drowsy is what you want but not fully asleep. If you see him nodding off trying changing position a bit or rubbing his feet or face to keep him awake until you lay him down. Also, a second option is to work on just the night waking. What do you do during the night wake ups? Have you tried seeing if he can get himself back to sleep?

  21. I am so glad I found this article! I have been so worried that I was the only mother who hasn’t yet trained their baby to go to sleep on their own and that it would be too late! This makes me feel very optimistic about the whole process. I have one question though, did your children sleep with a pacifier? I have always given my 10 month old a pacifier to sleep with but have had to replace it any time she fusses. Should I allow her to soothe herself without the pacifier?

    1. Hi Kylie,

      Thank you for your comment and so nice to have you here! There are definitely more moms out there trying to figure out how to get their baby to sleep and get some sleep themselves, then the other way around! Welcome to the club : ) And don’t worry, if you try this method your membership to the club will be short lived. When a pacifier comes into play you have to decide what you are willing to do and stick with it. Meaning if you are going to get up to replace it then she will expect that. If you choose not to then it will be the same method and a couple rough days of lousy sleep but she will get the hang of it. At 10 months she should be able to replace it herself so you can consider putting extras in the crib for her to find but it may end up if she can’t find one she will still cry for you to help. I would try to break the habit now to save the trouble of doing to later. But that is the beauty of being a mommy…you know what is right for your girl! Hope that helps : ) The trade off of a couple lousy nights of sleep for a lifetime of good ones is really worth it, I promise!

  22. Hi there. My baby is almost 6 months old and sleeping in a cosleeper in our room. She falls asleep in our bed being cuddled and then I move her to hers. She will wake up once to eat which I don’t mind, and then falls back asleep me holding her. I then put her back in the co sleeper. Between 4-7 she wakes multiple times and is restless until I put her in our bed where she normally finishes the night. I also should mention she is very dependent to fall asleep with the pacifier in her mouth. I think some of the early morning waking is because she wakes up without it as she spits it out once asleep. She isn’t a great napper usually less than 2.5 hours total during the day. She also likes to go to bed on the later side 8-8:30. She us rarely fussy and never seems tired. Even in the evenings leading up to sleep is when we have some of our best time with her.

    1. How do I help her fall asleep on her own with the pacifier? I don’t think that starting this and taking it away at the same time is a good idea.

    2. Is the later bedtime making it harder for her to sleep? It seems everyone thinks this is too late, but she won’t go to bed earlier even Laying with us. We both work and evenings are precious to us with her.

    1. Hi Becca,

      Thank so much for reaching out! 6 months is a tricky age because she is still bordering being able to soothe herself back to sleep. My rule of thumb is 9 months of age is a realistic expectation to teach your baby self-soothing. Take a look at this chart for an idea of how long your baby should be napping and sleeping. If evenings are your time together as a family, then you should enjoy them! It is much more important for her to bond with you as long as she is still able to get her 12-14 hours of sleep between naps and night time sleep. Try to find the best balance you can. Sometimes caregivers are missing the window that baby is sleepy and that can be why your baby isn’t napping. Check out this post on nap time if you need some help in that department. In terms of the pacifier and getting her to sleep you will have to be really consistent on what you choose to do. She won’t be able to replace it herself for a few more months, so she will still need your help. Or you can choose to let her have it to fall asleep and then not replace it for the rest of the night. Whatever you think is the best option for your family I would say to do it all at once and be very consistent. If you waiver then your baby will not know what to expect and you won’t see any progress. It’s a learning process and by having the same routine each night your daughter will learn what to expect when sleeping and it will become routine to her. It will be a rough couple of nights to first week but if you can be really consistent then your new sleeping habits will be in place and you will all sleep longer and better. I hope this helps to answer your questions : )

  23. My Gunnar man is 8.5 months old. When he was born until about 3 months he slept in his rock n play and loved it. After new born stage was over he would normally only wake once or twice a night to feed, well since he has outgrew his rock n play and went through the 4 month sleep regression ( I think) I have been co-sleeping with him. Which usually puts my hubs out on the couch since Gunn takes up his side of the bed mostly :/ He wakes up around the same times,, 11 oclock, 2 oclock and then has started a patern of adding around 5 oclock in there. On a normal night I just put him into bed with me that first time he wakes up and I nurse him ,and he and I usually fall right back to sleep but only until he wakes up again in which he thinks he must have milk or the boob to go back to sleep. Most nights I do put him down in pack n play initially at bedtime which is usually around 7 oclock after we have had dinner time bath time and a bottle or nursed, then I rock and put him to sleep In my arms.
    Ive tried a few nights to put him down drowsy but awake and he usually instantly starts crying when I put him in crib/pack n play and walk away. I will leave for a minute or two and come back try to shush him or pat him in which only makes him more angry when I walk away. He screams. Hes just wanting to be picked up desperately. so I will pick him up until he calms down I lay him back down and again instant crying/screaming. I feel like in my case there is much more crying than when I read your story. 🙁 So far I have failed and after going in 4 or 5 times to reassure him ( hes crying this whole time unless I pick him up) I end up picking him up and holding him until hes sound asleep and then put him in pack n play just to be awakened around 11 oclock every night. HELP

    1. Hi Mandy,

      So glad you reached out! I love the name Gunnar, very cute! Maybe I should edit the crying part to be more literal…It is so hard those first couple nights with the crying! And yes, they get angrier every time because they don’t understand what on earth we are doing changing things up! This method will only work if you are super consistent! The first 2-3 days are a rough go but by the end of the first week if you are consistent you will be amazed by the results! When he cries go in and pick him up. Comfort him and soothe him until he is calm. As soon as he is calm lay him down. He will scream again but try seeing if you can get away with rubbing his back…if not pick him up and repeat. It will be a long, sucky, frustrating night but eventually, he will get tired and go to sleep. In the night you can still nurse if you want to(totally your personal preference) but just be sure to do the same consistent method when he wakes then. You will probably be pleasantly surprised by much less night waking in the following weeks anyway. Do the same thing each night and be very consistent on picking up, soothing, and laying back down. Try to leave the room as much as possible so that Gunnar understands he needs to go to sleep himself. After the first 3 or so nights he should be getting the hang of it. By the end of the first week it should be getting much easier and by the end of the second week you will be so thankful to have peaceful and restful nights : ) I hope this helps you and Gunnar get some good sleep!

  24. Hey there!
    Wow! I am SO glad there is a sleep method besides “cry it out”!!! I had no idea! I’m a new mom to a sweet 2.5 month old baby boy! I know he is still too young to try this method and honestly I don’t think I would be ready for it quite yet.

    Baby B sleeps in our room in a basinet right next to my side of the bed and occasionally joins my husband and I in bed in the middle of the night (which still freaks me out so I usually don’t sleep but I just want so badly for Baby B to sleep so I sometimes just let him do it!) For the last two weeks or so he won’t sleep or nap without being nursed to sleep and then cuddled for a while. Usually for naps he wakes up as soon as I lay him down (this is stressful because it makes eating a decent meal difficult!) but at night if I just hold him for 20 minutes or so he will stay asleep and usually only wake up 1-2 times throughout the night. At first I was finding it a little stressful that my husband could no longer put our son to sleep but then I realized that I needed our baby boy and his cuddles just as much as he needed me.

    We had some trauma during delivery and for the 72 hours following Baby B’s birth. We are both okay now but some recovery time was definelty needed for both of us. Baby B was in the NICU, 3 floors away from me and it was the hardest thing I have ever gone through. Now at home, his room is one floor down from ours (our house is a strange/old layout) and right now I feel like I will never be okay with him being that far away from me. But yet I know we will eventually have to put him in his own room, especially for our marriage!

    Hearing my baby cry breaks my heart every time and I absolutely could not handle the cry it out method no matter how old he was. If Baby B struggles to sleep on his own once he gets older I will definitely be referring back to this article! Thank you so much for writing this! I’m so glad there are other moms out there that don’t want to let their sweet babe cry it out!

    1. Hi Mama B,

      So nice to have you here! You should check out the Wonder Weeks app! It is really helpful in understanding how your baby is developing and why sleep gets interrupted during those times. Soak up those baby snuggles! It really does go fast! Even faster than everyone says it does. I love hearing how you are finding you bond and way as a new mom! It is such an amazing and emotional time! Also great job on remembering your marriage so soon! I think I forgot about my husband for at least a year! Poor guy! Anyways, congrats on Baby B and so nice to have you as a new mom friend here : )

      1. Thank you! I will definitely check out that app. I’m always interested in learning more about what my baby is going through! When I have company over, or even just have my husband holding our son, I find that after such a short time I miss the cuddles already and am reaching to get him back in my arms, so I know I will miss the newborn stage once it passes and he starts becoming more independent. Thanks for the warm welcome! ☺️

  25. LOVE this article. I have a 4 month old who is a dream baby, really. He slept 4-5 hour stretches right out of the hospital and has been sleeping through the night for a while now… UNTIL LAST WEEK. Things have changed, he is fighting sleep, waking up at night, refusing to go down for naps, and when I put him in his little crib almost fully asleep he pops back up. I’ve been trying to let him roll around in there to see if he puts himself down but he consistently spits out his pacifier and chews on his fingers until he gags and throws up everywhere. He does this ALL. THE. TIME. Help! How do I make him stop?

    1. Hi Carol,

      So nice to have you here! Your baby is totally normal. He is just going through some big development right now and it shows that way. It will pass. I am just writing a new post about getting baby on a sleep schedule right now and talking about at that age how everything changes so dramatically! It is a rough patch! Do your best to make sure he is getting the proper amount of sleep and try to make sure you really watch for sleep cues before naps. At that age, he is still going to need your help getting to sleep. Soothe him and try again. Consider a baby carrier for naps if he is needing your comfort. I would recommend not letting him get upset enough to throw up. He needs all that milk so his brain and body can grow properly. It is a very demanding time but in a few months he will learn to sleep on his own and things will get back to a new normal. Try to hang in there Mama!

      1. Thanks so much. Rough patch isn’t over: he still wakes up a couple times at night and has been taking 30 minute cat naps all day BUT I’ve realized he is definitely too young to soothe himself. We kept trying for weeks and he’s just not having it. Gets absolutely hysterical unless my hand is on him and I don’t want him to associate his crib with stress so I am back to soothing and nursing and rocking for a little while longer and we’ll try again next month. 🙂

  26. My twins just turned 2, I nurse them both to sleep and we co-sleep. Would this work for us? I am ready to try and wean them but am terrified of bedtime. Any other suggestions?

    1. Hi Shanna,

      So nice to have you here! You have your hands and bed full! Yes, I think this method would work wonderfully for your family. At 2 your twins will be able to understand if you say that mommy’s milk is all gone. Wear high cut shirts and stay strong that mommy’s milk is all gone. I would recommend doing it all at once. It may seem like a lot but if you start a new way and place of going to sleep at the same time then it will all be one transition. Night weaning is actually much easier then it seems. It is generally us momma’s that are actually holding on to the nursing then our little ones, by that age. Remember to stay strong for the first few days. It may seem impossible but it is such a peaceful change for everyone once you get past the first week or so. Hope this helps! Wishing you good luck and sweet dreams!

  27. Hi, my girl is almost 11 months and we still nurse to sleep for naps during the day and to sleep at night. She wakes up 2-3 times a night to nurse as well. I only get her up when i know she won’t self soothe. I can’t get her to nap in her cot during the day so I lay her on my bed and nurse her to sleep then I can go do what i need to. Her cot is in our room as we are in a 2 bedroom and have a teenager and my partner doesn’t sleep in the room with us so he doesn’t wake her.

    1. Hi MummaMunchkin,

      Thank you for your comment! So nice to have you here! It sounds like this method would work very well for your little one. Start with bedtime changes and be very consistent. The night nursing, of course, is up to you. If you are ready to end it then try to change the sleeping and nursing habits all at the same time. Generally, the night nursing fades on its own after using this method because your little one won’t need you to soothe her to sleep anymore. After a couple successful weeks of nighttime sleep, it is usually a good time to start naptime the same way as well. I hope this helps! Wishing you all a good nights sleep!

  28. My 14 month old depends on me to rock him completely to sleep every night and anytime he wakes up. I feel the habit is making things worse and worse so we are trying this starting tomorrow and I’m so excited.

    My only question, do we change naps also? Or just do this method at night?

  29. Please help! My baby is 5 months old and takes FOREVER to stay asleep (he falls asleep while nursing). I’m talking anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour and a half. He wakes up when I try to lay him down.
    I have tried what you did and it just makes him mad. He won’t calm down even when I pick him up, I have to nurse him to get him to calm down.
    I did Cry It Out with my girls so I know it works but I really don’t want to have to do that again. I just don’t know what to do at this point.
    Please help!

  30. Hi!
    Love this information!curious if anyone has had success with tackling nights first, then naps? My 4 month old baby seems to do best with gradual change so I feel like a complete overhaul of all sleep might be a bit much.

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